i don't describe myself as a feminist. i mostly blame that on the girls who identified as such that i knew when i was younger. it was a hip word to use without real inclusiveness. at the time because i was more feminine i was torn down a bit. wearing make up and dresses and baking was very much not ok and these girls insisted that i was who i was for men without ever considering the fact that maybe i genuinely enjoyed these things. clothes and makeup were a way for me to experiment and express myself. a few years later these same girls were suddenly asking me how to get their eyeliner like mine & trying to be sweet. as much as i did appreciate them seeing that their previous notions were wrong, i also felt their new attitude towards me was disingenuous.
now, i know this is not something that is inclusive of everyone who identifies as feminist, but this is my personal experience & it just rubbed me the wrong way at an impressionable time in my life. do i agree with the basic principals of most feminists? absolutely! if you don't, you're kind of a dick. do i still feel badly about others who use this label? not at all. i don't use the word to describe myself on the regular, but as far as attitude, ethics, and politics go i could be considered a feminist.